Why can’t it just be this way?

I’ve been thinking on the whole “In Genesis God made them male and female” statement that is often used as a retort to any kind of affirmation of the LGBTQ+ community.  

But in Genesis God also made “light and dark” and “day and night”.  But then it goes right off and says “and then there was evening and morning, the first day…”. And I’m like, wait, evening and morning, what happened to night and day?  What is this “evening and morning” stuff? 

Tell me, at 6:00 pm in the late fall in Oklahoma, is it night or day?  Dusk you say?  What the heck is that?  Are you trying to say that there is some kind of transitionary spectrum between night and day?

It’s like there’s a spectrum between night and day and nobody bats an eye, but put a spectrum between male and female (I dunno… like a rainbow or something) and everyone loses their minds.

I think this spectrum in sexual biology is well understood by the scientific community and we experience it clearly through the lives of our transgendered friends who exist and live alongside us.  

There are some compelling arguments about how we’ve interpreted the scriptural concepts regarding homosexuality as a concept, and as for transgendered people, just look in particular at the eunuchs in scripture.  Are they not transgendered? often surgically?  Yet there’s no condemnation of them in that regard.

When it comes to the sacrament of marriage, I can still see how the Church would limit that sacrament to being between a man and a woman, and the reason is because of how marriage is a picture of Christ and the church, and in the new creation and the “two becoming one flesh” that comes through having children.  The likeness of Christ and the Church is pictured in heterosexual marriage.  And this mystery is there for all, including people who don’t participate in the sacrament, to see in the sacrament.

But just because gay couple’s marriage isn’t sacramentalize, doesn’t seem to me to mean that they need to be excluded from the community of the Church.  This seems similar to me as to how married people can’t live the monastic life, nor can the monastic person participate in the sacrament of marriage, but neither are excluded from the life of the Church.

Why can’t it just be like this?  Why am I anxious about asking these questions?  

I guess this is why I am just a lay person with a bunch of opinions on stuff…cause some of it I just don’t get.